Is love all you need?

So I was given this as an English assignment the other day, I thought I’d share my final draft with you, for the craic like?

Love is all you need

“Love is all you need.” – An oft and ludicrous statement. If love is all you need, why are refugee families so miserable? Why do people commit suicide? How would we survive without essentials, such as food?

Between the years of 2007 and 2009, suicide rates rose sharply all across Europe, due to the recession. People lost their finances, their life savings, their jobs and their homes. But in no way did the declining economy affect human relationships, yet there was a drastic increase in suicide rates. Mr Business man has a lovely family; a wife and two kids. They have a house, two cars and the children attend a private school. When the recession hits: Daddy loses his job, they lose that privatised schooling; those two cars, and they have to re-mortgage the house.
It goes without saying that he loves his family and his family love him, but in a situation like this love will not get him a job; allocate him money to provide for his family, or increase his self-worth. The man would take his own life after falling upon such hard times, undoubtedly leaving his family heart broken and distraught, and feeling like love had let them down. How would you explain this if love is really all you needed?

Will love get you a job? Will love pay your bills? Will love put food on your table? Possibly, but it’s highly improbable. Maybe I’m taking the topic too literal, in which case I’ll ask: is love all you need for emotional fulfilment? Then in that case, it’s a bit more likely but still quite improbable.
We are a love culture. We believe that passionate love is our one true guide to a completed life. If no such belief was present, never would the phrase “follow your heart” have come about. Love is an emotion derived from hormonal reactions in the body, to take any action based upon such feelings is not only stupid but defeats the point of deductive reasoning, logical thinking, critical thinking and any sort of evolution the human mind has undergone in the past 200,000 years we’ve been around.
We are no longer troglodytes; it would be a waste to dismiss such an amazing product of evolution for something which makes us feel warm and gooey on the inside.

Perhaps I’m still missing the point, what exactly is “love”? Is it the feeling you get when you have a new boyfriend/girlfriend? Is it the reason you’d sacrifice your life for your children? Is it why men and women choose to go to war and die for the freedom and pride of their country? Can anyone define love? No. Oxford tried, but it’s a bit two dimensional for my liking.
Love is present in everyday life in varying degrees of intensity. You can love that bar of chocolate you cheekily allow yourself to have as a reward after you go to the gym every evening or you can sit by your mother’s hospital bed, experiencing love in its most intense form, praying that things don’t get worse. In neither situation will one single emotion, love, change the results. It’s not going to alter the process of life nor will it help you get healthy.

Chances are, you’re going to find love at one point or another in your life, be it with a person or an inanimate object; I’m not here to judge. I can’t argue that you won’t believe love is all you need, but I can tell you that you’ll discover love is not all you need. Studies conducted since 1993 have shown cases where love can be detrimental to work ethic. You might not be able to get your new-found soul mate off your mind, or maybe you had an argument with them the night before and are too stressed out to work at the moment? Your employer owes you nothing; if your performance at work is poor then you can expect to lose your job. And then what happens? You become Mr Business man, who ends up losing out on life, all because of love.

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Stuart Comerford

Award-winning photographer. Writer/Director of the feature film "The Kids Aren't Alright".

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